Thursday, June 25, 2009

Closing and Reflecting on the Synchroblog

As we bring closure to our synchroblog initiative, my tired brain is ruminating on many different impressions and reflections. Overall, let me say how humbled and grateful I am for the many who shared with heart-felt commitment to find ways to see beyond the gaps and engage one another as fellow journeyers.

A number of people have referred to previous attempts at bridging – both personally and publicly. Those who have been intentionally involved in these attempts over the long haul can feel a sense of weariness or what one might describe as being jaded about a new attempt.

The BTG synchroblog was not a new or radically different attempt – though for some of our contributors and readers it was their first exposure to this kind of conversation. And to be honest, it was primarily with these 'newbies' in mind that we wanted to bring this conversation into the public realm of blogging. For those who have been around the block more times than they care to count on this topic, we hoped you would bring your experience, wisdom and maturity. And many of you did. While there may not have been any big “ah-ha” moments for seasoned travelers in these conversations in yesterday’s posts, I do hope that there were spots of encouragement as many shared with honesty and grace.

In particular, I think of Anita’s and Karen’s posts as ones which reflected the grace of seasoned travelers who, out of love for Christ, willingly put themselves out there yet again with words of gracious challenge to see one another across the gaps.

Then there are those for whom this conversation is not a daily reality, perhaps I might describe them as occasional travelers into these bridging attempts. I heard in these contributions a common theme of having experienced the need to unpack and deconstruct assumptions – and I found that encouraging. What I particularly loved about these contributions is that they focused on stories of personal encounters and personal relationships. That really is the heart of it all. And while these friends may not know every subtle nuance of this complex bridging exercise as some who live and breathe this stuff all the time, I thought that the stories of contributors like Mark, Chris and Darryl, to name a few, were bright spots of encouragement for those of us in the trenches on this stuff all the time. In their stories, they embodied what bridging is essentially about ….. meeting another person, connecting and sharing in each other’s lives.

Some concrete suggestions / insights caught my attention:

Justin Lee referred to two new DVD resources, our Bridging the Gap series and GCN’s Through My Eyes. (I had intended to do a post reviewing Through My Eyes - but didn't get a chance - but think it is a really great resource.) He also shared about a new connection point for straight Christians who want to share ideas on loving and bridging ~ and you can contact New Direction or Justin (at) gaychristian (dot) net with the subject line “I’d like to help bridge”.

Moody blogger reminded us that the Lord’s Supper can be a beautiful expression of gaps being bridged – and whether you agree with his perspective on the sacrament or not – it was offered in a wonderful spirit.

Empire Remixed suggested that everyone in the church give up talking about and having sex for a year and focus on serving together. While unlikely to be implemented, a thought-provoking, creative suggestion I thought.

Okay City focused on a tangible orientation to service together despite the reality of some gaps. "You bring the lunch, I'll bring the water."

I also appreciated the diversity reflected in the collection of conversations: some international presence, non-Christian reflections, as well as the spectrum of theological perspectives and sexual identity. I do regret that we did not directly hear from or engage the perspective of our trans neighbours.

As I hear from people who have been reading the posts, I am mainly hearing what I consider positive feedback: people felt most of the posts were thoughtful, respectful, gracious and hopeful; and people were both resonating and being stretched and exercising grace and patience too.

The synchroblog is officially closed now – if you have a post you would yet want to offer – please simply leave a comment on this or the previous post. Prior to doing that, please read through this post for a bit more background on the intention behind the synchroblog.

Some of you may know that I will be entering a season of sabbatical essentially in a couple of days (I have to preach yet on Sunday). I am really grateful for this time to leave the trenches for a while, experience rest, enjoy my family, and read, reflect and work on my book project. I don’t anticipate writing new posts until the fall - but be on the lookout for new weekly video clips and posts written by Brian.

Let me close by saying thank you to contributors and readers who have encouraged me, stretched me, and sharpened me in the last year of blogging. May God continue to give all of us courage, wisdom, humility and grace to truly love one another across the gaps.

Shalom friends - see you in the fall.
wendy

8 comments:

Karen K said...

Wendy, I have never been part of a synchroblog and I found this such a neat experience to have so much conversation happening at once on this topic. I enjoyed reading several of the different posts and am actually still wanting to read more of them. Thanks for setting this up.

Also, we will miss you when you are on sabbatical (I'm envious!). I can't wait to read your book when it comes out. May God give you lots of creative energy, insight and wisdom as you write it.

Al said...

Wow, what an enjoyable/intense/encouraging couple of hours! I've read several of the synchroblog posts, followed some back a few posts (including the delightful GCN musical), and am blessed to see such a spirit of open dialogue. A couple things that hit me--on the whole, gay Christians are a lot more generous than many fundamentalists (homosexuality is a sin, period). Secondly, somehow we need to move beyond the 'us and them' points of view that assume a dichotomy, even though bridgeable. Seeing any two ethnic groups as 'those blacks and us whites' for example, is still racism, even if I am trying to treat everyone as an equal.
Thanks for helping expose some awesome Christ-like attitudes that will continue to improve the church.

Sarah said...

Thanks Wendy for bringing this together. I myself will continue to read through the blogs and sincerely hoping that the links will still be on your blog for people to follow up on. It's just that there were a lot of blog entries here and hard to read through every blog.

I have questions and my brain is hurting. I've been stretched and I think for the most part it's all been good.

But I nonetheless have questions.

And one question is this ...

How can I (Side B) hold firm to my conservative views of scripture and still bridge the gap without having to be Gay Affirming, I mean, by saying that pro-gay theology is right when I don't believe that it is?

Can an ex-gay ministry bridge the gap? Why or why not?

Isn't it about Side A and Side B coming together? So then, what about Exodus, Love Won Out, Living Waters?

How can their voice be heard and still bridge the gap because if we're going to bridge the gap then these voices need to be heard as well and we should be connecting with them as well instead of stereotyping ex-gay ministries which so often happens and I hope, the intent to bridging the gap is to also remove the stereotype people might have in regards to ex-gay ministries.

So then, what next?

Mélanie said...

All the best Wendy! Enjoy some R&R... it's so easy to let "stuff" creep in when we are supposed to be focussing on home and rest... so guard your time wisely!! And please do keep the blogs up for quite a while... there's much more reading to be done...!!

wendy said...

Thank you Karen. This sabbatical is a gift I'm very grateful for - it has been quite a draining time of late and my spirit and soul need to rest and be renewed in God's presence.

Al - welcome to BTG. I'm glad you've found and engaged the blog posts. I think that it is a valuable collection of thoughts, stories and experiences.

Sarah - my sense in participating in this conversation for some years is that some of the paradigms and language surrounding ex-gay is not particularly helpful in the attempts to bridge and find a place of generous spaciousness. So many gay people have had hurtful and harmful experiences in ex-gay ministry that this is a difficult starting point for bridging the gap. Rather than trying to bring those paradigms to the table, I think it may be more effective to focus on personal relationships, being open to listen well, engage with respect, and genuinely offer unconditional love. I guess I would also say that bridging is less about ensuring equal representation and more about one heart connecting to another through differences. I would encourage you to simply make that your focus.

Melanie - we'll ensure that the specific posts related to the synchroblog are available in an easily searchable format. Thanks again for being part of the conversation.

anita said...

Wendy, Thank you for the mention in this blog post. It was a privilege to participate and even more so, it was a duty. I felt I could do no less than participate as a follower of Christ and as someone who has had so much grace extended to her by such an incredible God. I look forward to the day when these kinds of actions aren't necessary because I'm just crazy enough to believe it's possible that one day God's grace will do more than bridge the two sides together but will pull them side by side, closing in the gap so that it no longer exists. If God is part of all this, then how can we hope for any less?

wendy said...

Anita - you know that I respect you a great deal - in large part because of your consistent focus on responding out of the reality of God's grace in your life. Though I don't know what it will look like exactly or when.... I'll be crazy in hope with you in line with Jesus prayer in John 17.

Mark Petersen said...

Isn't it exciting what can come out of a latte on the patio at Timothys? What a great experience this synchroblog has been, Wendy!! Congrats and thanks for your hard work. You deserve your sabbatical.